The birth of a child is definitely a life-changing event for any couple. For some, it is an amazing experience that brings them closer together. For others, it can be a stressful and exhausting experience that takes its toll on the relationship. Most of the time, it’s a combination of both.
Getting Advice From a Professional Can Be a Great First Step
Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, but it is not always easy when you’re both stressed out and tired. The first way to communicate better with your partner is by being more empathetic. Empathy helps you understand how they feel and helps to avoid misunderstandings. The second way is to ask questions instead of making assumptions. It can be hard to understand what someone else is thinking, so asking questions can make it easier for both of you. Try using the journalist’s technique of active listening, which entails repeating back what the other person has said in order for them to feel heard and understood.It's important to be honest and upfront about your feelings and thoughts. There should be give-and-take in the conversation where both partners share their thoughts and feelings without judgment or criticism. When you want to talk about something that is upsetting, it's best not to bring it up when your partner is already stressed out or tired because they will be more likely to lash out at you.
The transition to parenthood is a big adjustment for any couple. It can take some time to figure out who will do what and how much. But in the end, it's worth it.One way that couples can share responsibilities after a baby is by splitting up tasks by day. One person might take care of the baby during the morning hours, while another takes care of them during the afternoon and evening hours. This way, both partners have time with their child and they are able to maintain their own interests outside of parenting as well. Couples who share responsibilities after a baby are happier and more satisfied in their relationships.
Take a Break and Schedule Date Nights
The importance of instituting a regular date night cannot be overstated. Whether it's staying in to watch a movie or making a romantic dinner. Try going out to a new place to eat, one you’ve always wanted to try. Making quality time for one another strengthens your bond and helps you communicate better and show your appreciation.
Intimacy can be a challenge for new parents, so don’t be frustrated if that’s the case in your relationship. Look for ways to have intimate moments with your partner, even if it’s just snuggling on the couch for a movie. You may also want to add a flirty nightgown that you can also nurse in to your wardrobe. Every little bit helps.
Short breaks like just grabbing a coffee for thirty minutes, taking a nap, getting in a workout, or catching up on a good book can offer plenty of replenishment so you're able to better manage late-night crying jags.
Give Each Other Some Time Off
Staying home so your spouse can go hang out with friends can be something you can do for each other that will benefit your time together too. If you’re overwhelmed with the baby on your own, get a friend or grandparent to help you out. If it’s dad’s turn to stay home, invite a friend over to play video games or barbecue. Or if he’s a new dad too, make your own podcast about what life is like for a new father.
A fun girl’s night out doesn’t have to be going to a bar, it can be a book club or a game night, as long as it’s not about being a mom, but about being you!
Frequent reminders that this time will pass by quickly and your shared joy at being parents will strengthen your bond in time. So, take those breaks, schedule some “me” time, and give your partner some time off — you both deserve it.