Kissing is important in every relationship; it is every relationship make-out starter. Whether it’s another playful nibble, a gentle peck or a hot make-out session, a kiss is more than just a kiss and the way you kiss says a lot about you.
A bad kiss can end things before they even start, especially because it’s usually your first initial physical contact with a (new) partner. I mean, I have ended a date just because the kissing didn’t do it for me and I can bet there are a lot of others like me.
Yes, if you intend to keep your new partner, you need to work on your kissing. You just have to nail the kissing first to be sure there is something to look forward to in the future. Don’t get me wrong, bad kissing is bad kissing, though I still think that the definition of bad kissing is under debate. While you hate someone counting your teeth during your romantic session, someone else probably adores that. I once had a guy, dragging my tongue, wanting to suck out all the moisture in my mouth, although I thought it was horrifying, I believe that guy is out there right now doing the same thing on someone else and they are loving it. Good for them.
Sincerely, it can be very difficult, to tell if you are a great kisser, at other times, it will just be about the chemistry and sensual tension between you and your partner, but if you follow these 15 best tricks, you will grow your confidence in your kissing skills regardless of the situation.
How to become a great kisser– 15 best tricks you need to unlock your kissing skill.
1) Always Respect their Consent
Don’t assume that your partner should be ready. Find out from them, if you intend making a move. It shows your level of respect for their space and privacy. A well-timed “Can I kiss you?” is a sexy enough move every single time. It simply tells how much you care about your partner’s boundaries and that you are ready to wait, until when they are ready for intimacy. Just make sure that you and your partner are on the same page before you start on any sexual tension and chemistry that you thinking is already building up.
Once you have your partner’s consent, then go in for the kiss. Just don’t insist on forcing a kiss if it doesn’t feel right, and don’t leave the other person waiting so long that they start questioning whether you are interested in them. Get their consent and time the moment is key.
2) Keep Your Breath Fresh
This trick is very important. There is nothing that beats fresh breath when it comes to kissing. No one wants to come that close to someone’s face space only to find that their mouth smells like garlic and stale food.
A little self-awareness goes a long way. If you think that you may have your chance of kissing or being kissed, then be conscious enough to skip the garlic, raw onions, broccoli, excessive liquor or coffee. Don’t be fooled by how delicious these items can be, they can do a lot of harm not just to your breath but your stomach. Although, sometimes, you don’t get to plan when a hot kiss can happen, if you follow your instinct all the time and you can prepare for it. Avoid stinky foods before a kiss.
3) Have Mints On Hand.
Like I mentioned earlier, you may not always know when a kiss could happen, so having mints or some sort of minty gum on hand is a great idea. It will help to ensure that your mouth is feeling fresh. Help yourself with a few mints or chew some gum, to get rid of the raw taste of food from your mouth.
Granted, you could forget, misplace or have your minty freshness stolen from your bag by one of your friends, then use lemon, ask for a sliced lemon from your waiter or host and drop it in your water. There’s nothing more inspiring than kissing someone with a minty mouth
4) Moisturize Your Lips
There are times when your lips cannot escape being dry and cracked, it comes with the season. But, you can help yourself. Kissing cracked and dry lips have nothing fun in it. Buy yourself a good lip balm. You want to have luscious and soft lips, wear it in the morning and night, to make sure you build smooth and sensual lips.
If you forget your lip balm, gloss or lipstick at home and you sense a hot make-out session loading, just lay off the salt and moisturize with water. H20 is nature’s most secret moisturizer.
5) Take Your Time
Don’t rush into it, keep the kisses simple. Always remind yourself that kissing is a team effort. Don’t quench someone’s spirit by trying too hard to experiment with some sexy tricks you saw online and turn a great make-out session to a terrible dental cleaning. That can be very offensive. Grabbing your partner quickly and shoving your tongue into their mouths can be super irritating.
Do you want to know what is hot? Starting small and slow, the build-up to the kiss, when it feels natural and you feel most comfortable, then go for it.
6) Keep Your Tongue In Check
French kissing can be hot and all sexy, but starting with too much tongue can be a huge mistake. Start with a closed mouth, slowly find their tongue with the tip of yours, then pull back. Crank up the intensity as the kiss gets more passionate.
This will help you breathe and keep away from too much moisture in the mouth. Remember it’s a kiss, not a dental wash or facial cleanser. No one likes to swallow other people’s saliva, nor have someone else’s full tongue in their mouth.
You do not need to be aggressive when you are learning how to become a good kisser. When you finally engage in a French kiss with your partner, you massage tongue together. This is more about exploration and wanting to get to know the other person even more. Keep it sensual and passionate. Be careful, not to dart their tongue. The keyword here is to use the tongue sparingly.
7) Keep Your Eyes Closed
When you are leaning in for a kiss, you can’t use your mouth to speak, you rather put your eyes to great use. Kissing with your eyes open is a common kissing mistake people often make. It’s weird to have your eyes open when you are all personal on someone’s face space, this can kill the mood.
I just don’t think you have any business opening your eyes while kissing or making out, closing your eyes can intensify the way the experience feels.
8) Use the Erogenous Zones
Granted, the lips are the body’s most exposed erogenous zone but not the only erogenous zones. Your body is made of several erogenous zones that are stimulated by touch. Think of all the grazing potential of the earlobes, the neck, collarbone, inner thighs, and others. Avoid the hickeys, I mean I wouldn’t want that, so don’t bite down or latch on unless your partner, indicates they want that.
These other nerve-endings love as much attention as they can get and while you touch, kiss and stimulate them, you are making your kiss even that much better. You may need to occasionally stop and look at each other, or probably even tell them how much you love to kiss them. Don’t be afraid to move past the lips! This is an important trick that will do wonders. Remember there is always more to kissing than just lips.
9) Feel The Way They Like To Be Kissed
There is practically no course that teaches how you kiss nor dictates what your partner likes in kissing. To kiss your partner the way they love and get satisfaction back, you will need to take cognizant of how they react to your little playful ear nibble, neck kiss, a gentle slip of your tongue and perhaps a soft bite on the lip.
Mirror your partner’s movements, to make sure you two are on the same page. When they enjoy your kissing, they can’t hide the signals, so pay attention.
Also, pay attention to what your partner does and try to imitate them. Your partner might just be trying to show you what they want, observe their moves. Slow down, take note of the things they do, and then gently do it back. If they respond with a positive vibe, you will know you got the message. Remember, kissing is a team effort, you both are in control. You can start, if you want to try something different, feel out each other’s impulses and go from there. Most importantly, follow each other’s lead.
10) Be Passionate
Being passionate does not come when you give in just 65%. Make it a full-body experience, because you will be missing so much if you just do the lips kissing. Don’t just stand there like a log of wood, either give it your 110% or don’t even start. Give your partner the craving to want more and more of your kisses. And if you enjoy what you are getting, show your partner.
Nothing bans you from going wild when kissing, if you are aroused and you get the vibe that your partner wants the same too, go for it. Touch them, get into it. You two deserve the most passionate kisses experience within you.
11) Stay In The Moment
Just like great sex, you need to stay in the moment to get the best experience. Don’t overthink things, Kissing is not a necessary step to sex. Focus on the kissing, do it well and enjoy it. Leave your backlog of baggage behind. Granted, that can be easier said than done, but make a deliberate effort to log out from all the stress of the day. Be in the moment, don’t let any distractions come in between you and your make-out session. You won’t get the most out of the moment if you let your mind wander off to places that have nothing to do with the kiss.
On the spot, don’t bother about your kissing skills, focus on your partner and how the kissing makes you feel at the moment and the kiss will be amazing.
12) Lead The Way If Necessary
Many people are afraid to initiate a make-out session, but if you want to kiss them and you know they want to kiss you too, but they are shy to initiate it, then why not kiss them? If your partner wants a kiss from you but couldn’t come for it because they are shy, you can probably pick up those signs well enough to make an appropriate judgment.
However, if you try to kiss them and they say no, apologize and move on. Or, if things are going in a territory that isn’t exactly your favorite kissing zone, then take the lead and show the way. No one says you cannot take over a bit when it comes to kissing. Some people can be very timid with their kisses, while others may not know much about kissing.
13) Be Spontaneous When Necessary
Kissing is all about the back and forth mutual exchange, so loosen up and try out different kissing styles as you are aroused, to keep things interesting. Gently pull your partner close to you, put your hands on their good spot, start at the lips, kissing without tongue gently down towards the chin, then all along the jawbone, towards the ear. From here, give their earlobe a little nip or whisper a few sweet nothing in their ear. Let out some moan yourself, if it feels good, this will encourage your partner to relax and bask in the sensation of the moment.
Feel free to let your lips stray to those above mentioned erogenous zones. Remember to give it your 110%. If your partner enjoys what you are doing, you will know right away.
14) Don’t Be Scared, To Be Honest
If you are not enjoying kissing them, then don’t be afraid to say something about it and suggest trying it again. If your partner cares about how you feel, they will want to hear what you have to say. Same way, listen to what they have to say about your kissing too. This is as new to you as it is to them and it will be a learning experience for both of you.
In the end, give positive feedback, nothing seals a great kiss like telling your partner something sweet about the way they kissed you. If you think, you two need more working on, then sandwich your feedback, give them honest feedback but be polite enough to coat it in the middle of two pieces of positive feedback.
15) You Can Help A Bad Kisser Improve
If you come across someone who is a bad kisser, consider giving that person another chance. I am not saying, you should expect magic to happen when next you kiss, but with time and practice, you can make a great kisser out them.
For instance, you can pause an aggressive kisser by leaning back, putting a hand gently on their collarbone, and pull very slowly, almost like you are saying “Chillax, take it slowly like this” Redirect an acrobatic kisser by pulling back, just enough for you to whisper how you will want to be kissed.
Also, get them to read this article and learn the tricks to becoming a great kisser.
Ultimately, never compare your current partner’s kissing to an ex, because that will be a very unfair thing to do to your partner and yourself. We are all different, we approach intimacy differently, and we all enjoy those differences in other ways. Keep off from comparing and contrasting. It’s just a waste of time and will drain your zeal of becoming a great kisser that you desire.