It absolutely normal, in fact, it feels good to want to look for signs that your ex misses you. I mean, if you want to tell yourself the truth, you also miss him/her every once in a while. No matter the turn the relationship took and how the breakup was, whether amicably or not, you want them to miss you; you want to know that your ex misses you.
Sometimes our exes do everything in their power to mask their feelings for us because they are not sure whether the other person feels the same way about them, just the same way you may be trying to mask yours if you are in that shoe. And sometimes they are not even trying to hide how they truly feel because they are really determined to win you back!
There are other times when you are not sure you wanted the breakup, you may be stuck between wanting him back, wanting him to want you back, and hoping for a chance for you two to get back together in the future. And it doesn’t help when your ex is sending you mixed signals. You are not even sure what he wants, you are getting missed vibes and not sure what to hope for anymore.
Either way, you can handle the situation in the best possible way by knowing where you stand, read between the lines.
If you have no intention of getting back with this person and you notice signs that your ex misses, you will know to back away. On the other hand, if you want to rekindle romance, knowing the signs to look out for will help you make the right move!
If you are in this spot, you will want to know the subtle signs that your ex misses you by knowing what is happening on his end.
Do they keep showing up in your life, even though you guys called it quits? Your circle of friends told you to steer clear of contact with them. No interacting with them on social media. Yet somehow, they keep popping up here, there and everywhere.
Now, if only a thing or two in signs mentioned below are familiar to you, they may not mean something. But if he checks most of the signs, then he definitely is still into you and hoping for a re-connection someday.
1. Your ex drunk calls or texts you
They say that the drunken mind is the most honest because gives boldness and courage to do things they wouldn't do when they're in charge of themselves. While it is true that alcohol lowers inhibitions and heightens our emotions, yet it may not be entirely true that what happens in this state is at it is. In as much as, he is in an emotional state and reaches out to you, it may be a sign that he misses you but don't take whatever he says as 100% true.
On the other hand, if he cares enough about you to have you on his mind when he is not in control of himself, there is a big sign that your ex is still thinking of you and wants to be in touch with you. Your ex wouldn't drunk call you if he didn't still care about you! However, you probably know your ex than me, so you can discern whether to believe or just take as face value what he says when he drunk calls you or text.
2. He gets nostalgic
When you see your ex, you will probably talk about things that you did together in the past and some of the good times you had. But if he looks back over your experiences and memories with a fondness in their eyes and perhaps a wistful smile on his face, then there is something there.
If your ex is often reminiscing about your time as a couple, this is a clear sign that he misses you. If he is always thinking of the old times in a positive light, there is a chance that he is still wishing some element of you was still in his life.
When he gets overly nostalgic, it's a major sign that he misses you.
3. You start to see them wherever you go
It’s normal to bump into someone from time to time, but if every time you look over your shoulder it’s like he is there. Maybe he shows up at the restaurant you and your girlfriends go to every Friday night. Or, you see him randomly jogging the park at the same time you normally do. If the bumping is much too coordinated to be a mere coincidence, it’s a clear sign that he still cares about you and that he misses you. He is not trying to be creepy, he just misses spending time with you. He probably thought he may get the chance to talk to you and rekindle things from there.
When a guy is investing that much energy into seeing you, you should at least hear him out. If you don't feel the same, maybe you can at least be friends (if that is good advice)!
4. He becomes jealous when you are with someone else
Jealousy is one emotion among a few others more difficult to hide. If you have been seeing someone else, and your ex finds out but starts showing signs of jealousy that is a strong sign he still scared of losing you entirely to someone else.
Even if the only thing he is doing is to make rude comments about the guys you are with, serious or not? If your ex is doing this, it is a clear sign that he still has feelings for you. The fact your ex becomes jealous when you are seen with someone else means he still doesn’t want you to be with anyone else and that’s because he still cares a lot.
5. Your Ex Tries To Make You Jealous
After the breakup, is your social media timeline flooded with pictures of your ex and how he is cruising life, most times with hot girls? When your ex is flaunting new girls or flaunting his accomplishments in front of you that is a sign that he is not over you. This can still come in the form of flirting with other girls when you are around and making sure you see it. This is him gauging your feelings for him. He wants to see if his actions will stir up any feelings you might still have for him.
If your ex is genuinely over you, he wouldn’t care if you were bothered about it or not.
If your ex is genuinely over you, he wouldn’t care if you were bothered about it or not.
6. He stalks you on social media
There is one obvious way to know if someone is social media stalking you. If he likes or comments on your post once in a while because you two are still connected on social media, it is normal. But if he is commenting on all your new updates and pictures on all your social media handles, then he is keeping up with you on social media.
If he even goes back to check your old pictures and like them, he is stalking you on social media. I mean it takes effort to look through someone’s old pictures.
If he is actively following your social media, he could be missing you.
7. He is always trying to meet and catch up
After a breakup, there is no reason to continue meeting up for anything, unless you are trying to stay in touch, unless if you are yet to accept the fact that you guys are no longer an item.
If your ex wants to meet and catch up, more than likely it is his way of finding out if the door is still open to rekindle the relationship.
When a guy wants to catch up, there is always an intention behind it. Maybe he wants to rekindle your old romance. Maybe he is curious. Maybe he wants the satisfaction of knowing you miss him and want him back or just trying to desperately keep you in their life.
Whatever it is, he is thinking about you and wants to see you.
8. He makes up excuses to contact you
He finds the most random reasons to reach out to you, to show up at your house or your office. He might call you to ask a question that they already know the answer to, just because they wanted to hear your voice.
Whatever the means of contact or for whatever reason, your ex will come up with a ton of excuses to contact you without thinking about it.
This could also be another way to know if there is still a little chance that you still have something for him. If you are going to be receptive or simply blow him off. It could also be a straight-up strategy to rekindle the old fire.
Whatever his excuse is, it is a sign that he is missing you and just want a part of you to hold onto.
9. He jokes about missing you
Jokes are always used to reduce the weight of the truth. Joking about something is one of the best ways to try and gauge someone’s reaction, without saying it seriously. If your ex is joking about missing you, then he might be missing you but using jokes as a cover. He might just want to say it, but not sure you feel the same.., so it is safer to say it jokingly and nobody gets bad feelings.
10. There is no sign of a new relationship
Another one of the signs that your ex still cares about you is that he isn’t dating anyone new. This sign might be a bit trickier to establish though. If your ex is not dating anyone yet, it might mean he misses you, or he is taking time to heal from the breakup or enjoy his single life before jumping into another relationship.
But, you have to check how long he has stayed single since you broke up. Especially if your ex had other relationships before he started dating you. If your ex has been single for a longer time than usual since you broke up definitely means he misses you. If he is over you, he wouldn't have any problem dating someone else. However, they still care about you, so they've stayed single because no one can compare to you
Moving on is too hard right now because you are still fresh in their mind.
11. Your ex asks around to see if you are dating anyone
When you still love your ex, seeing them move on can be very crushing. If you notice that your ex is curious about your new dating status, he might just be missing you. If he is asking around from mutual friends if you are already seeing someone, he might be trying to know if there is a chance for you two to get back together.
After all, if he didn’t care, he wouldn’t be that interested in who you were dating. He would be minding his own business and moving on from your relationship.
12. He actually tells you that he misses you
Obviously, this is the most honest approach and the easiest way to tell if your ex still cares about you. is It's not easy for your ex to admit that he still misses you and that he wishes you were still his girlfriend. There is probably no hidden motive behind these three words: “I miss you”. No one is going to lie and say by saying that.
When your ex tells you that he misses you, then he probably misses you. It's now left to you to decide if you still care enough to try again or if you want to cut them loose completely.
Summarily, I must state for clarity sake that just because your ex misses you, doesn’t mean you should get back together. I mean, you know why you guys ended things in the first place. Usually, when a relationship ends, it ends for a reason. If it was toxic, full of deceit, unfaithfulness and practically everything unhealthy, then it needs solving before anything should happen (that is If something must happen) If not, how will you be sure that things won’t be worst than it was the first time.
It doesn’t mean that a relationship can’t work in the future. However, it is safer; to make sure the issues that led to the breakup are sorted and cleared first before another trial.
Work on yourself to become a better version of yourself right, even with all the signs, if there is. Maybe in the future, you will get back together or not. Either way, you would have done the work to become a better person.