Seduction is a real art. Getting laid is the easiest part, but what happens after the sex is the real deal. How do you get her to deeply fall in love with you without necessarily leaning or pushing it?
Finding sex is cheap; you can buy sex anytime, but don’t you ever want a good thing going with someone you may fancy? Seduction is deeper than sex. Learning to be sexy and getting someone interested is usually not an overnight event, but a process that involves a lot of fun back and forth.
That’s true. Seduction, if done right is a game of thrill, desire, discovery and satiation. It is not getting someone to do what they do not want to do initially, it is getting her to do what she wants to do but couldn’t or didn’t know how to, more importantly, having her constantly want more of you in her space, until there is no going back. Seduction or being seduced in general makes you feel wanted, needed, and most importantly, desired and loved. It is just as significant as telling someone you love her.
In the realm of relationship and romance, it is a no-escape skill and it’s not just being invented, it is as old as relationship itself.
How to seduce someone
The word seduction is an everyday English but just a few of us know our way around it. Especially if you’re not familiar with good flirting and seduction techniques. Seduction is a beautiful act. It truly projects the way a person pays attention to their significant other or the person of their admiration at the moment. Seduction is a very important aspect of making a relationship last and keeping it fun, entertaining and healthy. It comes easy for some people and not so easy for others, and this is why you are reading this article.
Becoming a master in the art of seduction doesn’t mean not making mistakes. It means being aware of yourself, knowing when you allowed yourself go a little overboard and knowing how to correct yourself, then finding a way to use it to your advantage. You are human, don’t beat yourself too hard, don’t rush it and you’ll become a master of seduction in no time.
Here are top 15 seduction tips that can help you take that pleasure ride and become the master of seduction.
1. Eye Contact and Eating
Eat snacks and sip your drink slowly and seductively, the bond of eye contact in flirting and seduction cannot be over-emphasized. But, don’t go staring at them like a weirdo, be subtle but romantic. Most people find eating seductive, especially when there’s some eye contact involved. Make sure to look into her eyes when she is talking and when there is silence, and hold your gaze for a second or two longer than is comfortable. This may be tough at first, but the more you do it, the easier it will become.
2. Use the power of light touch
Don’t be intrusive; be seductive. Avoid sexual touch, even though it may be the first thing that will come to mind when you hear the word seduction. Your focus is not getting sex; it is getting something deeper than the physical. Don’t ruin it.Touch her hand, gently touch her shoulder or any other part of her body that is not sexual. Gently brush against her when you walk by or sit close to her. Go gentle and subtle. Just enough to have the effort of your body contact noticed.
3. Play hard to get
Everyone feel better, when they have the sense of conquering and overcoming obstacles, that is why everyone loves games. We all want to be called winner at some point. People feel better when they work for what they get. This is how seduction works. Give her enough sense to chase you, to look for you, to miss you and long to have you in her space, but also give hints that will tell that you are within reach, that they have a chance with you. It’s okay to make her work a bit for your time or affection, to increase her anticipation, but don’t make her bend over backwards for little in return. Doing so is more likely to turn her off.
4. Pay her compliments
There is a thin line between giving compliments and being overbearing. Complimenting her means making her feel special and making her feel special means seducing her. Do not overdo it as it may appear obvious. But you should compliment her when you mean it. You could tell them how impressed you are by the way they carry themselves or how elegant you feel they are. If you do it too much, you won’t look like you’re seducing; you’ll look needy.
5. Smile Often
It’s the best thing you can do. It opens up your body language and invites her in. A smile is an easy way to say that you want to engage with the world around you. A genuine smile catches attention and helps her to zero in on you and only you. This is especially effective if you’re smiling at something she said. Try a wily smile that says I know something you don’t know, combined with a gentle chuckle, to leave her wondering about what you’re thinking. Don’t fake smile, most people can spot fake smile from afar. Show her that you enjoy her company and an all-around happy person. People like to be around happy people, that’s just the way it is. Seduce with a genuine smile.
6. Show Confidence
Confidence is important in seduction. It is another powerful weapon in seduction. Keep a good, healthy posture, look her in the eye, make a good attempt to talk clearly, be relaxed and pay attention to your body language. Don’t go blurting on about your weaknesses, heartbreaks, inadequacies, or any other negative feeling. The idea is seduction and your negative history or baggage is not seductive. Even if you feel a bit insecure, afraid and not sure of exactly what you are doing, you don’t need to let her know that, yet. Be in charge of yourself but not arrogant.
7. Don’t appear arrogant
To be clear, being confident doesn’t mean being arrogant, overly serious or intimidating. Don’t act like you know all things, are better than everyone or the most learned. Yes, you should be confident, but don’t act like you’re the most wanted. Show that you are good and lovable, then trust that she will notice it.
Commit to finding the balance in conversation with her. Listen to her but not being silent and talk to her but not being dominant.
You need to find the perfect balance between listening and talking so she doesn’t feel neglected. You want to let her know that you’re interested in everything she has to say to you and that you have some interesting things to discuss with her. Talking only about yourself or boasting is a big NO.
8. Say her name
It’s not the words you say; it’s how you say it. There are voice tones for different modes, different situations, different purposes. There is a way to say or pronounce her name and easily capture her heart just as you desire. Lower your voice a bit when you speak her name. You’ll see what it does.
9. Let your body language do the talking
One of the means of communication is body language. Study it and know when to use it. This will prevent you from making mistakes and it will improve your efforts. Your body language can tell much more about how you feel than your words can ever so. If you make sure to pay attention to your body language, half of the job will be done without much stress.
When you’re on a date or just talking with the person you want to seduce, be keenly aware of your body positioning. If your arms are crossed or you’re facing away from them, they won’t get the sense that you’re interested. On the other hand, if you lean in with your arms propped on the table or your hip, this tells them you’re open. These are small gestures but can tell a person a lot about how you feel. Don’t forget that observation is a necessary skill when it comes to seducing.
10. Remain a bit mysterious.
Mystery is your secret key spice when it comes to seduction. Being a little mysterious means saying enough to rouse her interest and knowing when to retreat to make her want more. People get intrigued when you appear a little mysterious. Leave a lot about you to their imagination and reveal as little information about yourself as possible. Ask more questions than telling her more about you. This will attract her more. Make her question some things about you without you confirming or discarding them. Once you learn to use the weapon of mystery properly, you will be a master of seduction.
11. Look at their lips.
The lips are hotspot you don’t want to miss/ignore. They are sexual part of the body. Looking at lips when she’s talking is highly suggestive and seductive. Looking down at someone’s lips might communicate sexual intent and might trigger sex because it gives the impression that you want something more. Please do this with some caution, not to come off as simply wanting only sex. Also, be certain she is getting to the space of loving you deeply before freely engaging this tactic.
12. Send flirtatious texts.
The secret to knowing how to seduce someone is realizing that not all seduction happens in person. You can also fascinate her through text. The key here is not to be blatantly sexual but to use innuendo to get them thinking about you without pushing for it. Texting has become a huge part of how we communicate with others. Really watch that line between seduction and sex because that is not your goal. You want to create anticipation. So, send flirtatious, yet hard to get, texts.
13. The Power of Scent.
The way you scent is a vital factor to your success in seduction. Scent has the power to influence our judgment and can enhance attractiveness. You can compare it to pheromones.
You can enhance your natural pheromones by using perfumes of your choice, but be careful not to overdo it. Carefully apply it to your body’s so-called pulse points. You can also spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist. Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in their mind. You should overwhelm her sight, and scent to fully draw her in.
14. Be yourself in the seduction process.
Most people would agree that aside from the superficial qualities, personality and confidence is everything. “Nothing is more seductive than when someone knows how to carry him/herself well and exude sex appeal.
This means someone that is comfortable with his/her own skin and who knows what she wants. Love yourself. If you can’t love yourself, you don’t believe that you are worthy of others’ love. And if you don’t believe you’re worthy of others’ love, you’ll struggle to build a healthy relationship.
Wear your best clothes, take care of your hygiene and keep a good hairstyle. Just show her that you’re feeling really good in your skin and that you’ve made an enormous effort to look your best for her. This will make her feel special.
15. It’s a work in progress.
Seduction is a real art and in order to master it, you need to be patient. After all, ‘patience is a virtue’ and every single achievement requires a certain amount of patience if you want to be successful.
It is a work in progress, you are working at becoming a master in seduction. It will not just happen overnight. It’s going to take a lot of time and practice until you get the hang of it and become comfortable with your own technique. You need to work on yourself, be persistent and, most importantly, you need to be patient. But eventually, you’ll find a seduction method which is most effective and successful for you.
While some of these top 15 seduction tips require you to get a little out of your comfort zone, you should feel comfortable doing them. Start with the ones you are most comfortable with. It’s one step at a time. It’s a work in progress. You may need to practice these tips so you perform them flawlessly and confidently. In just a few practice you will be a ready master.