Having a crush on someone is exciting. It happens to the best of us. You meet someone new, get to know them for a few days, weeks or months and before you know it, you are already crushing on them, liking them in specifics. It’s fun to gush over someone new, you think about them, their eyes, their smile, their face, even their lips, you imagine a few wonderful conversations, you dream of them holding your hands, saying and probably doing things to you.
You are just wondering if you will ever get the chance to date them. You are drooling and having fun until you realize there might be a possibility that your crush does not like you back. You probably won’t get the chance to date them. That’s very heartbreaking!
This is why it’s important you know for yourself if your crush do or doesn’t like you. After all, you don’t want to have feelings for someone who may not like you back. It may be disheartening to find out that they don’t feel the same way you feel about them, but it’s always better to find out sooner before you start investing more time and emotions into them. Nothing feels better than having a crush and finding out your crush likes you too.
Do you have a crush, and you are worried they might not like you as much as you like them?
Decoding your crush likes you can be tricky and easy. Easy because they may be leaving some signs unknowingly, signs that will help you crack their secret code. Tricky because they may be warm today and cold tomorrow.
Well, if you notice these signs in them, then chances are your crush doesn’t like you back. This might help you save a great deal of embarrassment before you jump into conclusions. Here are 20 signs That Your crush doesn’t like you back.
1. They never initiate Communication
Texting offers an easy, casual way to maintain communication with someone you are interested in. If they don’t seem to be taking advantage of this modern tool, he’s probably focusing on someone else. Period.
It is very tempting to want to make excuses for your crush for not trying to text you at least, they are probably more of an in-person talker than texting.
So are they at least calling? If you feel like you are always the one doing the calling or texting and every other communication, it is a sure sign that they are not into you like you are into them.
We are all busy people, but when it has to do with making contact with someone we are interested in, we will always make out time no matter how. So, if they liked you, they will make time to get a hold of you. They would come with any and all ideas to strike up a conversation with you. If they like you. they are going to want to see you, and see you often
That urge you feel in your stomach to be around a guy you like, men feel that too. And if he feels that urge, he is going to be reaching out to you to see you and talk to you.
If they are not calling, or texting, or making plans to be with you, then your crush doesn’t like you back.
2. They Don’t Care About You Dating Other People
If you’ve purposely dropped that you are dating other people in front of your crush to see how they react and they, well, don’t react at all, then they probably don’t like you the way you want them to.
Someone who is into you, no matter the depth of his interest, would probably show some interest or be bothered if you mentioned you were dating other people, or just going on a date with some guy, which makes sense because they probably want to date you!
If your crush doesn’t seem concerned at all about your other dating escapades, a crush is all they’ll probably ever be.
As simple as seeing you talking to another a guy, will affect an effect on him. If your crush likes back, he is going to care about the other guys you are spending time with. He is going to be hypersensitive to the idea that anyone else is interested in you
If he is not jealous when you are with other guys, take this sign at face value and move on.
3. They Avoid physical contact With You
If you like someone, you often look for ways to be physical with them, to be close to them or touch them. When someone likes you, they try to touch you in every possible way, they seize every possible way to try and touch you. It could just be the urge to sit next to them during a meeting or class, or even just giving them a hug to say hello.
Someone who doesn’t like you, won’t try to get close to you, they will have no reason trying to be physical with you in any way. They will even be confused and uncomfortable when you try to be physical with them.
If they don’t seem into any kind of physical affection, unfortunately, they are definitely not into you.
4. Their feet never point to you or lean in when they are talking to you
One of the most confusing subconscious things that we do when we are interested in someone, is that we tend not to control the direction of our feet. It is subconscious, so if their feet are not pointing in your direction when talking to you or when they are talking to someone else, then there is a good chance that they don’t like you back.
Another crazy fact, again subconscious thing we do when we like someone is that while we talk with them, we naturally move closer and lean in towards them. This is a subconscious action that signifies interest. They may lower their head, lean in while you talk, and even move their body closers to yours without realizing it.
5. He never notices when you change your appearance.
When someone is into they will always notice when you make some changes to your appearance and compliment you if they like the change. No matter how tiny they change maybe, they will notice it and show you that they noticed.
When we like someone, we are eager to comment on their effort to stay beautiful. We want to show that we observed and admired your strengths and efforts.
Withholding compliments most of the time shows that there is nothing there to admire and a huge lack of interest from your crush.
6. They ask you for dating advice.
This is plainly obvious if they are asking you for dating advice, it means his romantic energy is pointed in a different direction. Don’t be tempted to excuse it for trying to get you jealous, men are not dense.
If they go as far as to openly mention other people they are seriously interested in or even crushing on, it means that he’s not interested.
They have just virtually told you that they don’t like you. Again, this is them trying to make you jealous. This is them giving you a blatant signal that they are not interested in dating you. And you know what that means? There is no chance of them dating you, move on.
7. They avoid being seen with you at events.
As unpleasant as it is, observe if they never seem to be seen next to you at events, even when you two attend together. They might just be trying to register their availability to eyes around. They probably don’t want to give you the wrong idea nor spoil your chances of getting a date yourself. Either way, it’s a strong sign your crush doesn’t like you. When someone likes you, it’s like a magnet and can’t help but be pulled toward you.
8. He doesn’t try to impress you Nor Impress by you.
When we are into someone, we try our best to be at our best behavior when they are around us. We want to look our best, smell beautiful, say the right things, laugh and smile nicely just in a bid to get their attention on us and impress them.
Observing how hard your crush tries to impress you will help you figure out which way their heart lies.
In the same vein, when someone is into you, they become your number one fan. They want to be the first to congratulate, admire and praise on any new success or accomplishments. If your crush likes you, he/she will pay attention to your accomplishments and praise you especially for them.
If they do the opposite of that, chances are – you are crushing on the wrong person.
9. They rarely offer to help you.
Again, while someone who is interested in you will look for opportunities to assist you, one who isn’t will see it as a burden. Even when they do help you, it’s only because it’s absolutely unavoidable, not because he is choosing to.
If you notice that they are never there when you need them, even with the seemly little things like sending you a reminder for an important meeting, checking up on you when they notice your absence or just to help you move, then his interest is somewhere else.
10. They never listen to you
Someone who likes you as much as you like them will always want to hear what your input is about almost everything important. They will obviously be interested in your opinions and suggestions, they will literally want to hang on your every word because they are interested in you.
If they are interested in dating you, they will want to make you feel important in their lives, they will be all ears with you.
Conversely, when you find them not showing any interest in what you have to say. If you feel like you are trying to chase them down just to have a normal conversation with them, and then when you get there, they aren’t paying attention, they aren’t the one for you.
When someone is interested in you, he will want to listen to but if that is not your case, on a frequent basis odds are they are not into you.
11. They Never Seem To Prioritize You
Someone who is into you would find ways to be available to see you, even if they were actually very busy. If otherwise, their busy schedule could be just a way to avoid you.
They are never available to spend time with you and to even return your calls and text, they always make excuses instead of attending things you invite him to. They just find a reason why they won’t be available. This is a sure sign that your crush doesn’t like you back.
When someone likes you, they won’t cancel on you last minute unless there is a really valid reason, which will make sense to you. If they bail on you for reasons like something better came up, or they forgot you had plans, and so forth, they just are not that excited about you.
12. They Treat You The Same As Everyone Else
This one is simple. When someone is interested in you, they will feel differently about you than other people. When they feel differently, they act differently. If your crush doesn’t treat you basically different from other friends or acquaintances, they may just have friend-zoned you and nothing more than physical.
Someone who likes you a lot will make sure they show you that you have a special place in their life because you do. They will interact with you differently than everyone else, because they will likely be interested in a relationship, too. If you don’t feel that you are being treated especially than other of their friends, chances are you probably aren’t different than others to them.
13. You Talk About It
This is somehow the simplest and more straightforward than others. You can either be straightforward with your feelings and ask them or you can wait for them to tell you. But being straightforward may save you a lot of time and emotions. It allows you to clear the air between you and your crush. You get the opportunity to talk about your feelings, while they do the same and it can save your friendship at least. Admitting your feelings to someone might be embarrassing and nerve-racking from the fear of rejection. But if you really want to stop doing all the guesswork or trial and error, you have to be bold and talk about your feelings.
What is the worst that can possibly happen? Your crush can like you back and you both enjoy the ride to happily ever after or your crush doesn’t like you back, you go through some temporary pain, but it will bring you one step closer to someone who actually appreciates you for who you are.
14. You can just tell
Finally, listen to your gut. What is your instinct saying to you? If it seems like you are grasping at straws or struggling to find evidence to convince yourself that your crush likes you, you probably know the answer. Don’t waste any more time on someone who has one leg in and one leg out, your heart and time deserve much more than that.
As hard as it may be, it’s better for you to know what is actually going on between you two. You will be doing yourself a huge favor. You will save your time, energy, and possible heartbreak.
Always remind yourself that you are an incredible and unique person. The truth is that just the same way you don’t like everyone you see, not everyone is going to like you back.
Amazingly, that’s one of the things that make life so exciting and add depth and value to our relationships.